SiMpLe Or CoMpLiCaTeD III

Emerge KL 2008 finally over. LU didn’t make it to be the overall champion, 3 golds behind the MINT. But I’m so proud to say that this is the greatest achievement so far. From the last place last year to the second place this year, can u believe it? Yesterday was the grand finale of Emerge, i could easily see tears of many people… All their hard work, their sleepless nights, their precious time sacrificed were not in vain, EmergeKL 2008 has become the biggest, coolest, and most powerful youth conference in Malaysia because of each and everyone of us. We should be really proud of ourselves, a church full of young people, in fact majority under age of 25, but look…..we can do great things for God…

Personally, I just wanna say I’ve learn so much so much throughout Emerge. Last year was my first year, was involved in POS and also the winner of the middle weight arm wrestling.

Last year Heavy Weight and Middle Weight ArmWrestling Champions. Bored, cant compete this year…. =(

This year, arm wrestling was won by MINT for all 3 categories. The BIG AND STRONG africans… Champions cannot join for 1 year, what to do? hahaha. But next year I’ll be back! And I know my team is gonna be strong too.

This year, my role is basically the leader and organiser. I am the event leader of the bowling and arm wrestling competitions. For bowling, we managed to grab both male and female categories’ golds. For arm wrestling, not bad also, a silver. I just wanna take this opportunity to thank Nickey for giving me the opportunity to serve for Local U. I didnt know i can lead, can organise but i’m so glad that I’ve picked a strong team by the wisdom od God…

I also wanna thank my lovely girlfriend, kathy for her support and understanding. I had lesser time with her recently. Less shopping and less pasar malam hahaha….

Kathy and I at Emerge, second night

Dunno wat else to talk about, Emerge was really fun. Hahaha….I get to take pictures with some celebrities….hahaha

 Liu Geng Hong and Miss Taiwan…..wow….

Miss Singapore who teaches us how to do make-up

Brenda, the finalist of Mama Mia Indonesia, very sweet girl

City Harvest Singapore pretty worship leaders

AND……………………………………..S8!!!!

Without u guys, I probably had given up already. Thanks for the encouragement and prayers . Especially to Leena, Nickey and Theen Kin… Thanks for praying for my assignments and exams. S8 is not just a cell group, but a family…

Good bye EmergeKL 2008, see u all at Asia Conference Singapore =)

Are u emotionally abused? This is a serious matter which u really have to think about it. To consider whether ur partner emotionally abuses u, look at the information available on physical abusers.  The patterns are similar:

* She has an intense temper, triggered by minor frustrations and
arguments.

* Her sense of power or control depends on her partner’s acquiescence and his performance per her demands.  She feels “in control” only if her partner is totally passive and giving in to all of her preferences and decisions.

* She expects him to behave according to her expectations of what her partner
should be like; perhaps the way her parents’ marriage was, or its opposite.  She demands that he change to accommodate her expectations.

* She projects the blame for all relationship difficulties onto her partner.  She wouldn’t get angry if only he would be who she wants him to be…  She wouldn’t drink if he didn’t make her unhappy… She denies the need for counselling because there’s “nothing wrong with her, only with him.”  She might not want him to get counselling because she’s threatened by the threat of an outsider “taking sides” with him.

* She may be described as having a dual personality — she is either sweet or exceptionally cruel and sharp.  She is selfish or generous depending on her mood.

* A major characteristic of abusers is their capacity to deceive others.  She can be sweet, calm, charming and convincing.

* The mate is usually a symbol.  The abuser doesn’t relate to her partner as a person in his own right, but as a symbol of a significant other.  This is especially true when she’s angry.  She assumes that he is thinking, feeling, or acting like that significant other — often her father (or other family member or authority figure).

An abusive partner will railroad discussions, so that you don’t have time to think about what’s right and what’s wrong in their behavior. Take a moment to
consider these questions.  Your partner might have behaved as though these
things were okay, even though it’s obvious that they aren’t okay…:

Do you feel that you can’t discuss with your partner what is bothering you?

Does your partner frequently criticize you, humiliate you, or undermine your self-esteem?

Does your partner ridicule you for expressing yourself?

Does your relationship swing back and forth between a lot of emotional distance (clammed up) and being very close?

Do you sometimes feel trapped in the relationship?

Are you afraid of your partner?

If yes….GET HELP!

“honkiet, you can do it!!!” – have u ever said this to me? I’ve been hearing this again and again in my life. And recently, I’ve been telling myself the same thing as well. Reminding myself, “Yes…I can do it and must do it!!!” At the same time, I’ve started telling people that there are things which I can’t do. What’s going on?

I’ve been really trying hard to stretch beyond my limits. To do what I think I can’t do. To do things which I’m not used to do. TO LEAVE MY COMFORT ZONE. Emotionally, I feel a bit lack of motivation and a strong feeling of being overwhelmed. What’s holding me back? I know of course.

In order to make something work, I have to be aware of what isn’t working. I am aware of what isn’t working… But instead of changing the situation I am really trying my very best to CHANGE MYSELF. Almost every areas in my life is in dry season now… I have the feeling of saying I wanna rest for a while… But things keep moving, and keep changing very fast, I just can’t find the ‘pause button’.

Don’t ask me, “what’s going on honkiet?” Too much to explain, too many things happens at the same time.

“honkiet just need a rest…”

Life is like a roller coaster.
It’s always a different thrill each day
For it’s never the same ride for all.
Sometimes it’s up,
Sometimes it’s down.
Twisting and turning
Through thick and thin,
Up and down,
Which way will it go?
People scream, people shout,
Others cry, others laugh.
No matter how hard
This ride seems to be,
You just gotta get through it.
Just have faith in yourself!
If you follow the track,
For it will take you home.
Life is like a roller coaster,
It’s the best ride there is.

By Stepfanie McCaffrey.

I’ve been hearing this definition of ‘life’ since i was young, I heard it again few days ago. Life is like a roller coaster, how true is that…
Here’s something I wanna share. Life is really full of challenges. I’m not saying challenges is not good, in fact, those who love challenges are the highest achievers. Do you agree? However, to really ENJOY challenges and being highest achievers, there’s a price that you need to pay.
Life is full of unexpected matters. So many times people use the word ‘I thought’, why? Because things don’t turn out to be the way they want them to be. Consequently, you might start losing hope, confidence, and even losing who you are… U’re no longer the brave, outspoken, full of confidence and determination YOU. Frankly speaking, I face situations like this so many times in my life too, even now. I don’t have solutions to handle it. Then why am I blogging?
Here’s the good news. Look around you. There must be someone who actually knows about what u’re facing. They are the ones who never leave you when u’re in trouble. They might not be able to help u directly. But, they encourage, love, and pray for you. This is FRIENDSHIP.
Friendship means a lot to me. I used to take it for granted. When I was checking my SMS and deleting some of it. I can easily see words of praise and encouragement, and people offered to pray for me. These are from TRUE FRIENDS. My true friends - S8, BS 5+6, housemates(recently…hehe) *clap clap*
Parents didnt call me as often as before. Maybe they think that I am big enough to handle things. And I very happy that I’m no longer making them worry. I am already big boy. I think….hehe.
Friends, here’s one thing I’ve learn and I wanna share, it is very simple, I’m so sure that its applicable to ur life. I used to ignore it, but i now I know the importance of it.
PICK YOUR FRIENDS UP WHEN THEY FALL
Why? Because you will eventually fall and need help getting up. Thanks to Sarah for the sermon.
Last but not least, thanks to all of u…For making my roller coaster life interesting. =)